Sterling Shumway, Ph.D. & Thomas Kimball, Ph.D.
Marriage and Family Therapists
Achieving Lasting Recovery from Addiction is Possible!
Have you ever wondered why addicts struggle to maintain lasting recovery?
Would you like to know what we can do together to create a lifetime of recovery?
Recent Book Published by
Hazelden Press. To be
released on April 3, 2012.
Order at http://www.hazelden.org/OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=173104&sitex=10020:22372:US
Vision: Helping individuals, families, and professionals promote and achieve lasting recovery!
Mission: We accomplish this vision through our therapy practice and recovery research which informs our scholarly publications, books, multi-family work, supervision and training/speaking engagements.
Finding a Recovery Team
The Lone Cyclist
In the early stages of writing our book, we were sitting at a local park talking about ideas and noticed a cyclist pedaling his way up a long hill. He appeared to be motivated and focused on getting to the top. Judging by his effort and progress he seemed determined to reach his goal despite the myriad of speeding automobiles racing closely past him. In addition to these challenges, he was also riding against a strong West Texas head wind. It was the contrast between the cyclist and the cars around him that most caught our attention. He was undeterred by those who were moving faster and more easily up the hill. When at last he reached the pinnacle, we couldn’t help but think how his journey sometimes mirrors the journey of those in recovery.
Like the cyclist, the addict has a long and difficult journey ahead. Life is hard and there are many distractions. Focus is essential if you are to reach your goal. Others will try to convince you that their way up the hill is better or that you should trade in your bike for a fast car. Wouldn’t it be easier to push the gas pedal to the floor and let the automobile do the work? Or, is there something in the one pedal-after-another focus of the cyclist that is beneficial to you and your recovery?
As with the cyclist, you may feel that you have the whole world buzzing past you in life’s journey. You will be tempted to compare “your bike” with what you consider the “luxury vehicles” of those around you. Try to be content with your own gifts and talents and avoid unfair and distracting comparisons. These types of comparisons will destroy your peace and serenity. Like the cyclist, you need to be confident in who you are and what you are trying to accomplish. Make sure these accomplishments allow you to stretch yourself, yet are reasonable and can be attained. This consideration of attainability can be aided by being realistic about your abilities and drawing upon the gifts given you by your Higher Power.
Your Recovery Team
Although we must sometimes push our way up the hill alone, the true hope of lasting recovery is that there are other people who understand and can teach us how to cope with the difficult road ahead. Recovery cannot be done alone for very long, and is much more enjoyable with a team of supportive people. Your recovery team includes a sponsor, a recovery community, and others, including family and friends, who are willing to make the recovery journey with you.